If you’re the type of person who scores the Internet for articles like this, it’s possible to assume you’ve found love and not lust on your mind. You always want love for yourself and the people who are closest to you.
Of course, not everyone is going to make love a priority; Not everyone is going to put love so high on their list of priorities. Not everyone is going to consider love an integral aspect of finding happiness and a sense of self-fulfillment.
But it would probably be safe to assume that anyone would ever turn down the idea of a happy-one-of-a-kind story ending for themselves. Most people always want to chase a happy ending whenever presented with an opportunity. Now that begs the question: When can we really be sure when the opportunity to pursue love in our lives is a real one? How do we know that we are not just falling into a trap that is ultimately going to destroy us on an emotional level?
You don’t want to hear the truth, but too often, we have a tendency to blind ourselves to the many red flags that are present in early relationships. You may be in love with your partner and you become so desperate for that love to work that you can’t see the fact that you are in a relationship built on lust, not love. And it can be very easy to confuse the two, because at face value, they can often look and feel similar.
Both feelings can be very intense, passionate and comforting at the same time. You might think you’re getting really deep, even though you’re not really scratching the surface yet. And despite all these similarities, there are some very major differences between the two that you should be aware of.
According to leading experts in the field of love and relationships, love is not necessarily something you can manifest with nothing. This is something that requires a lot of real effort and conscious thought. Lust is more uncontrollable. This is something that can either happen or not. And here’s where the big difference lies: Love has many depths and layers, whereas Lust does not. But how does that help you determine whether your relationship is built on love or lust?
Here are some signs you can watch out for:
- Your partner is taking things really fast in the relationship.
This is the biggest telltale sign that it’s all about the lust in your relationship. You have to know that real love is not something that is built in a few seconds. Love is always something that needs to be built over time. Love is like a fine wine; It gets better with age. And you really have to give it time to grow and come into its own. Love cannot be instant.
- You are being hugged by all the
You know you’re having too much when you’re physically hugging it. It feels like your is getting even more intense than your actual workout at the gym. You don’t want to take away from other aspects of your life. You only want to enrich your relationship; You don’t want to include it completely.
- Your partner takes you back anytime when you just want to talk.
There will be times in your relationship in which you just want to talk to your partner. There will be moments where you seek genuine advice; Or when you are longing for a real connection with someone. And if your partner doesn’t make you feel like they’re available to you in these moments, you know it’s all about the lust.
- You really don’t know anything deep or intimate about them.
Other than the fact that you know they love having with you, you really don’t know much about them. They don’t really open up about the most intimate aspects of their lives. They don’t really talk to you about the inner depths of your soul. They don’t have a deep and intimate conversation with you. It’s always just small talk or sensual talk.
- Your partner always wants to be in control of the relationship.
You don’t get a voice in this relationship. You’re not meant to really feel like you have a say in anything. This is very real proof that your partner only sees you as some kind of object. They do not accept the person beneath your physical exterior.
- You really don’t find any resolution to your fights.
If your partner walks away from your fights, it means that they are not invested in your relationship on an emotional level. They are not really interested in overcoming the issues that you may have with each other.